Thursday, December 15, 2011

Of two tribes: Sacrifice and sorrow in worlds apart


As a newspaper beat reporter for more than a decade, I’ve long been proud of my ability to craft stories from complex subjects on tight deadlines.

But a half-year after returning from Ethiopia’s South Omo River Valley, I am discouraged by my incapacity to fully explain what I learned there about ritual tribal infanticide.

The who, what, where and when are simple enough, horrifying as the subject may be: Many among the Kara, Banna and Hamar tribes believe in an evil spirit called Mingi. They fear that, if ignored, it will cause the sun to grow hotter and the rains to stop falling. Crops and animals will die. And then people will die.

The spirit takes many forms, but within these tribes, the most common way Mingi materializes is in infants and small children — those born before proper ceremonies are performed; those born different in some discernable way; those whose top teeth come in before their bottom teeth.

They are suffocated, drowned, bludgeoned and then tossed away to be eaten by wild beasts. Tribal leaders estimate that hundreds of Mingi children are killed in these ways each year.

They do not relish this rite.

“They are human,” one Kara village chief told me. “But we do this for the good of the tribe.”

And here is where we get to the why. And this is where I have been failing, quite miserably, to bridge the immense social, cultural, religious, geographic and economic chasms between this world and that.

Many have tried to change these hearts and minds. So why is it that no one has been able to convince these people that this spirit has no real power over them — that they have sacrificed their children for nothing?

I cannot explain. I can only seek to make meaningful connections. And as we begin to write the first chapters of our nation’s post-Iraq history, I am reminded that we are no less subordinate to the power of fear — and no less seduced by the notion that there is no security without sacrifice.

There were about 160,000 U.S. military members in Iraq when I first visited that country in 2005. Today the war is over. And by the end of this month, our troops will be gone.

Nearly 4,500 U.S. military members have been killed in Iraq since the beginning of that war, nearly nine years ago — including 26 from Utah who died during my tenure as national security reporter for The Salt Lake Tribune.

I met many of their families. Some I got to know quite well. They let me into their homes. They told me their stories. They shared their pain. And they continued to allow me into their lives, time and again, in the years that followed their loved ones’ deaths.

In 2010, I was invited to join a delegation of “Gold Star Mothers” — those who have lost sons and daughters in the military — that was traveling to Iraq. The trip, to the war-torn nation’s relatively peaceful and semiautonomous Kurdish north, was intended to provide these women with an opportunity to better understand the place where their children fought and fell. And it did.

But Iraq is a complicated place. And even in the region of that nation that has long been most supportive of the U.S. intervention, the experiences these women had were hardly a single-sided confirmation of the righteousness of the cause for which their children died. In Iraq they had a chance to better understand the perils of democracy in a highly charged, sectarian society. They came face-to-face with the shocking ways in which some Iraqis have chosen to celebrate religious freedom. They saw the effects of political impasse on desperate people.

Having earlier reported from some of the very cities where their children had died, I spent a lot of time in quiet corners of our hotel with women who wanted to know more about how what they were seeing in Iraqi Kurdistan was representative of the nation as a whole.

What they so desperately wanted to know — needed to know — was that their children had not died in vain.
But I did not always have the answers they seemed to be seeking.

We spoke a lot, during those weeks, about the ways in which the lives of ordinary Iraqis had changed — for better, worse and not at all — as a result of American intervention and occupation. We spoke of the idea that our nation needed to “prevent another September 11,” about the premise that Saddam Hussein had to be stopped “at all costs,” and, especially, about the time-worn adage that “freedom isn’t free.”

There is fair debate on the question of whether or not most Iraqis are better off today than they would have been if the U.S. had stayed away. But, alas, there is very little evidence that the U.S. adventure in Iraq has prevented acts of terror; that Saddam was any greater threat to his people than other murderous tyrants our nation has simply ignored; that Saddam was any threat, whatsoever, to us; or that the deaths of American service members in Iraq have had any impact on the freedoms we enjoy at home.

But for families who have lost so much, the alternative to believing in the absolute necessity of their sacrifice can be tremendously painful. And it is, for some, simply unthinkable.

In the Mingi mothers of the South Omo tribes, I saw a hauntingly familiar plight. These were desperately grief-stricken women, victims of culture and circumstance, who would carry their anguish to their graves. But the one thing they had — the only thing they really had — was the belief that their sacrifice had bought safety for the rest of their tribe.

And they clung to that. Like a mother holding her child, they clung to that.

For if that were not the case, then what had their tribe done to them?

My God, what had it done to them?

Matthew D. LaPlante is an assistant professor of journalism at Utah State University.